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Merry Christmas and Happy 2012 December 28, 2011

Filed under: Uncategorized — db1264 @ 9:57 pm

It’s bImageeen quite awhile since I last posted anything. I have nearly let two weeks of my vacation from online college go without getting on here and putting up anything new. It is now 3 days from New Year’s Eve and 4 days from the New Year. Since I don’t make New Year’s resolutions and we don’t go to any New Year’s eve parties (we’re an old married couple with a 9-year-old daughter), life around our house will most likely be Dullsville.

But, hey that’s okay, I’m used to being home-bound most of the time anyway. However, I digress. The title of my post is “Merry Christmas and Happy 2012″…so I suppose I should write about what we all received for Christmas and how wonderful 2012 will be for us – we hope!

Carli – our 9-year-old, received some pretty spectacular things for Christmas this year. The last gift she opened was her netbook. While I didn’t mind sharing my computer with her, it was beginning to get old. Since I attend college online, I had to make sure my homework was done while she was at school so that when she got home, she could get on and play games or watch YouTube videos.

Now that she has her own computer, I can do homework at my leisure – although I’ll probably still want to be somewhat finished with it before she gets home so we can have time together. It’s important to be there for our only child. She also got some LPS animals, a slinky, the Uno card game, two decks of playing cards, dominoes, $80 in cash, two Monster High dolls, one of which came with a bunk bed and a slew of art supplies, plus a drafting table and a clamplamp (pink, of course!).

I got a few things, they were all unexpected surprises, as I wasn’t expecting anything, to be honest. My husband gave me a mother/daughter necklace – the bottom heart is big and an alexandrite and the top heart is small and an amethyst. It is set in silver – very beautiful. My daughter gave me a pair of amethyst earrings that match a necklace I have and a purple sari – I wear it around my shoulders like a shawl and it keeps me comfortable in this cooler Arizona weather we are experiencing this winter. My sister sent me a mustard seed necklace.

Hubby got two t-shirts, a flannel shirt and 6 pairs of socks. He was in dire need of new ones, so I made sure he had them. He was very happy with what he received and also pleasantly surprised, as he was not expecting any gifts either. Christmas, we believe, is really for children.

As for 2012, I am hoping that I will continue getting better, as I have been sick for over a year now. I had to stop working as my health has gone downhill, not to the point of needing to be constantly hospitalized, but I have been in the hospital several times already this year – and, for anyone who has had to be hospitalized more than once, it does get old fast.

I am hoping to get disability and also hoping that hubby gets to continue working full time for a while. He originally started out very part-time, but the carrier he was subbing for walked off the job and as the first sub on the list, he was given the position full-time until a replacement can be found. This may take some time and while he doesn’t really want to work full-time, he has bucked up and taken it on. For this I am grateful as the money doesn’t hurt.

My, my. Have I gone on! I hope everyone had a very Merry Christmas and has a very Happy New Year!


If you had your own clothing line, what would it be called? September 29, 2011

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If I had my own clothing line it would be called “Carli” – named after my soon to be 9 year old daughter. My late in life miracle baby. Whom I thank God everyday for. She is absolutely precious to both my husband and I because she came along when we were least expecting it. We’d been married for about 6 months when I got pregnant with her after a bad trucking accident in which all three of us (we had a JRT with us at the time) should have been killed and we literally walked away from it. Sad news – our JRT¬† passed away about 5 months after our daughter was born. I won’t go into detail, it is still too sad for me to talk about.

Anyway, clothes would be matching for moms and daughters and dads and sons, because I feel that is what would sell. Kids clothes would obviously be smaller versions of what their moms and dads would be wearing. How fun would it be to dress up like your mom or dad? Ok, it would probably get old after awhile, but tastes do change and children do grow up. The clothes would be a relaxed fit, not too tight, not too loose and comfy casual so that you look good no matter where you’re headed out to!



Carli is starting to grow up

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Our little girl isn’t so little anymore. In just under 2 months she will be turning 9. Some days you’d think she would be turning 21. I swear. We have something good happen for us recently and with that came the opportunity to purchase new bedding and pillows. For her and for us. We have gone literally years without any new sheets, comforters, pillows and we were finally able to do so yesterday. We didn’t go crazy, we never really do, but still it was fun to walk into a store and pick out new bedding for ourselves.

For the first time in a very long time, Carli slept all night in her bed. She got up once to say that she was having bad dreams about getting her picture taken (the photographer had already been at the school earlier in the day and had taken school pics), and her dad told her that pictures had already been taken and that she should go back to bed and go back to sleep, which I guess she did. I don’t know because I was asleep. Dad told me this over coffee and breakfast after he’d dropped her off at school.

Anyway, I am hoping there are many more successful nights like last night because we slept so much better without her in between us. Yes, we have been co-sleeping for a very long time, and while it was very wonderful, it is high time she started sleeping in her own bed. I am grateful we were able to buy new bedclothes and make her room that much more special for her yesterday. She loves her bed now and she too slept like a baby.



Bullying – hate crime, jealousy – why? September 23, 2011

Filed under: Uncategorized — db1264 @ 5:35 pm

My soon to be 9-year-old is being bullied at school. Again. She was bullied last year by a couple of her classmates, but as a very involved mom, I was able to put the kibosh on that. Now, here we go again. I called her teacher a few minutes ago and let her know that my daughter is being bullied by a particular classmate and I want it stopped, NOW! The teacher said she’ll talk to the bully and my daughter. I explained to her that I do not believe my daughter is doing anything to instigate the bullying, but that it is happening every day. The student is at least a head taller than my daughter, pushes her in line, pushes her against the brick wall during recess, pushes her down the slide and screams at her. What’s sad about all of this is that the student bullying my daughter is new to the school, and my daughter asked her if she’d like to be friends, to which the bullier replied, ‘Yes’…then came Monday morning and the bullying began.

I can’t have my daughter being bullied. I will NOT allow it to continue. I explained to the teacher that when she talks to my daughter and the bullier, she is to understand that she is NOT in trouble. I’ll give her a week to resolve this issue, but if it is not resolved to my satisfaction I will escalate it to the principal and if it is not resolved at his level I’ll step it up and they will not like what comes down the pike then. I will pull my child out of that school and home-school her if that’s what needs to be done in order to protect her.

Some might say that pulling her out will teach her nothing but to run away from the problem. I say, not so. I am protecting my child. I do not want her committing suicide like other bullied teens have done. I want my daughter to love being at school, to love learning and being with her friends. It only takes one child bullying another to cause the bullied child to hate life in general, especially if the bullying is done on a daily basis and there is no relief or getting away from it.

So, I am willing to do whatever it takes to make sure my child isn’t being harassed, bullied and belittled by a 9-year-old child. She knows what she is doing is wrong and needs to be punished for it. Severely, I don’t know. But this much I do know, if it doesn’t stop and stop soon, there are going to be serious consequences for the school. I will escalate it to whatever level I need to, to make sure that no other child goes through what my child is going through right now. Guaranteed!


Life with constant pain

Filed under: Uncategorized — db1264 @ 5:17 pm

What a weekend we just had. It was wonderful, I am not complaining by any means. Our lives have been so richly blessed because of a negative influence leaving our home. That may sound strange, I’m sure, but for us, it is true.

As for me and what’s been going on recently, well to say nothing would not be true. I am loving life again because I get to be a stay-at-home mom and take care of things as best I can. Most of the heavy-duty housework is now left up to my wonderful husband because of my ongoing medical condition. Fortunately I am not incapacitated and can help out when I am not in any pain…which until just a couple of days ago was not the case.

I have upped my dosage of the pain medication (hydrocodone) – 1 pill was not working for me and I decided to take a pill and 1/2. I am still in some pain, but nothing like I had been. I’m sure my doctor will not like to hear what I have done, but I will have to tell him if I am unsuccessful at finding a pain clinic that can help me manage my pain with medication(s). I have an appointment with a gastroenterologist on the 20th, and I just may ask them to prescribe me something in the event that I do not find a pain clinic.

Most pain clinics around here only take on cases of back/spine and joint pain, not abdominal pain. So, if my current physician refuses to refill the pain medicine he recently prescribed for me, I will have no choice but to seek it from the gastroenterologist. I am at a complete loss as to why I am not able to get the relief I need, I have been in constant pain for almost 18 months now, and alternative medications do not work for me nor does anything over-the-counter.

I can’t lie and say I have back pain, the medication would not be the correct thing and I refuse to take something that will not help.


Change in direction – Harry is moving out September 10, 2011

Filed under: Uncategorized — db1264 @ 8:56 pm

Life has gone in a completely new and unexpected direction starting yesterday – Labor Day of all days. Less than a week ago, my father announced that he wanted to move back to Kennewick after living with us for 15 months. We were shocked, but my husband booked his flight that day for Monday, September 5th leaving at 8:30 a.m.

My father had made no arrangement to be picked up at the airport or where to live, nothing. He just left it all undone. I was able to get in touch with both Marvin (a cousin of mine) and Grant (a former step-brother) to let them know what was transpiring and when this would all go down. I received a call from my cousin yesterday afternoon letting me know my father had arrived safely at his final destination. My brother called me this morning with some questions about my father’s health and general overall condition. I answered his questions, let him know that I am Harry’s Power of Attorney, since I’m his only biological child it makes sense and no one there in Washington State is going to fight me for it. Whew…I was kind of worried. BUT, I needn’t have.

So, now that is under the bridge and in the past, I told Grant whatever papers he needed for me to sign to get Harry into assisted living, to let me know and I would sign the papers, no problem. Whatever he needs help with to assist Harry into getting medical treatment, etc. I would be more than willing to do. He said he’ll keep me in the loop. Of course, the conversation went on longer than it has taken me to write these first three paragraphs, but I’m sure you get the gist of it.

Harry cannot live on his own, he is frail and is a high fall risk, cannot cook for himself or anything that someone who generally takes care of themselves does and can do. I found out recently that my POA holds no barring in Washington State. So, Harry is completely on his own. I don’t even know what is happening with him. I haven’t received a phone call from anyone since yesterday when Grant was trying to help Harry with his bank account. Getting it moved to Sterling or something, I don’t know. Anyway, I’m sure if they need to tell me anything they will call. I leave it in their hands and God’s. There is nothing more I am responsible for.


Just when I thought… September 2, 2011

Filed under: Uncategorized — db1264 @ 6:44 pm

I wasn’t going to be abandoned by my surgeon, what does he do? Tells me my two new little developments on my abdomen are not worthy of an appointment. Well, okay then. Here’s the back story on my two new little developments…I sprung a huge leak this morning, so I turned on the shower and took my bags off. Well, while cleaning myself up I noticed two little spots below my bottom fistula, one has already started bleeding, the other one oozing pus. The area has been hard and red (cellulitis) but no real issues with it, so I let it go. Now that there are two spots I wanted to have them checked out by him, since he’s the doctor who is most familiar with my case.

He promised when I went to see him for the second fistula that he would not abandon me, yet it seems like that’s exactly what he has done. I was scheduled to see my primary care physician at 8:30 this morning, but since I’m still on my period, I decided not to go. My bags didn’t leak until after I’d been up for a little while, so I would not have known about the little abscesses until after I’d got home, so there was really no reason for me to go.

Now, I’m going to call them on Monday and see if I can be seen for these. I did not put new bags on because I thought my surgeon would want to see me…he had no advice for me as to what to do about them, and if I put my ostomy bags on, they will only irritate them further…so I now have to figure out a way to cover them and have my bag stick so I don’t have leaks. Time to talk to some of my fellow ostomates!